Have you ever realized that people who learn how to develop and maintain relationships seem to experience more success in love and business? Relationships vary in their duration, intimacy levels, and frequency of interactions and the following four tips can help in all relationship types.
Tip #1: Express your needs
Needs in this context is interchangeable for expectations. It is People are not gifted with the ability to read minds, so it is important that you let people know what you expect from the relationship in the beginning. It is best to be the most honest when establishing a relationship, setting a tone for how you would like the rest of the relationship to continue. Have you ever heard the saying, ask for what you want? This is true in both professional and romantic relationships. If you are looking for payment for a service you provide, let your needs/expectations be known. If you aren’t looking to date just for fun and what to establish a serious
commitment, let your needs/expectations be known.
Tip #2: Let your actions match your words
This is a necessity when creating boundaries in your relationships. Actions speak louder than words, so people will go by what you do rather than what you say. If you are creating boundaries in a professional relationship and state to a client that you do not accept calls after 9pm, but one day call them at 10pm, your actions are not matching your words. So make sure when you’ve expressed your needs and established your boundaries and make sure that you hold up to your side of the deal.
Tip #3: Compromise
It is important when you are establishing a relationship to compromise. I say this cautiously because if it’s in regards to your values for example spiritual beliefs, you should never compromise. However, if you are trying to decide where to eat for dinner, or who will wash dishes tonight, or who will take a certain role in a project, compromise is necessary and a vital part in order to make the relationship work. Ask yourself if this is a deal-breaker for you? If you compromised on this certain issue, think about how it would make you feel? If the compromise is just a pride issue, it is better to leave pride at the door to make the relationship
thrive. Remember it’s about the team in relationships and not the individual.
Tip #4: Keep in contact
In professional relationships, shooting a quick email to let them know you enjoyed the conference call, or you enjoyed lunch, is a great way to establish a friendship. Send a card on their birthday or a thank you card for the connection or help with a project. In a blossoming romantic relationship, remain consistent.
Many people who I coach with relationship issues biggest red flags are, “He went from calling every day to every other day to once a week.” It is necessary to remain a constant if you want the relationship to
develop any further. Consistency is key.
I hope you have enjoyed these four tips that can be applied in Love and Life. Please keep in mind
that in order for a relationship to thrive it must be built on a solid foundation. If you express your
needs, let your actions match your words, compromise, and be consistent in
keeping in contact, your relationship will be a true
success!!
Tip #1: Express your needs
Needs in this context is interchangeable for expectations. It is People are not gifted with the ability to read minds, so it is important that you let people know what you expect from the relationship in the beginning. It is best to be the most honest when establishing a relationship, setting a tone for how you would like the rest of the relationship to continue. Have you ever heard the saying, ask for what you want? This is true in both professional and romantic relationships. If you are looking for payment for a service you provide, let your needs/expectations be known. If you aren’t looking to date just for fun and what to establish a serious
commitment, let your needs/expectations be known.
Tip #2: Let your actions match your words
This is a necessity when creating boundaries in your relationships. Actions speak louder than words, so people will go by what you do rather than what you say. If you are creating boundaries in a professional relationship and state to a client that you do not accept calls after 9pm, but one day call them at 10pm, your actions are not matching your words. So make sure when you’ve expressed your needs and established your boundaries and make sure that you hold up to your side of the deal.
Tip #3: Compromise
It is important when you are establishing a relationship to compromise. I say this cautiously because if it’s in regards to your values for example spiritual beliefs, you should never compromise. However, if you are trying to decide where to eat for dinner, or who will wash dishes tonight, or who will take a certain role in a project, compromise is necessary and a vital part in order to make the relationship work. Ask yourself if this is a deal-breaker for you? If you compromised on this certain issue, think about how it would make you feel? If the compromise is just a pride issue, it is better to leave pride at the door to make the relationship
thrive. Remember it’s about the team in relationships and not the individual.
Tip #4: Keep in contact
In professional relationships, shooting a quick email to let them know you enjoyed the conference call, or you enjoyed lunch, is a great way to establish a friendship. Send a card on their birthday or a thank you card for the connection or help with a project. In a blossoming romantic relationship, remain consistent.
Many people who I coach with relationship issues biggest red flags are, “He went from calling every day to every other day to once a week.” It is necessary to remain a constant if you want the relationship to
develop any further. Consistency is key.
I hope you have enjoyed these four tips that can be applied in Love and Life. Please keep in mind
that in order for a relationship to thrive it must be built on a solid foundation. If you express your
needs, let your actions match your words, compromise, and be consistent in
keeping in contact, your relationship will be a true
success!!