I hope this EBook encourages you!!
You would be surprised that a lot of couples complain about the basic grooming habits of their spouse.
I mean it sounds silly but after you are with someone for a number of years, you get a little more than comfortable. When you first started dating your spouse you would wear makeup, have your hair done, you would throw on some heels and a killer outfit; but after a couple of kids, a fulltime job you start to
feel as if “nobody really has time for that.” So you go without makeup, you throw something on to go to the movies; instead of heels you go for flats (not saying there is anything wrong with flats, I love them!)
But come on ladies, we need to spice it up from time to time.
I remember a couple of years ago, I was hanging out with a girlfriend and we were talking about how often we engage in sex. She was a newlywed and was bragging on how she and her husband were having sex every day. I laughed and said “wow, we have sex more like once every other week.” She then proceeded to ask me what I was wearing to bed. When I tell you her eyes were as big as an orange when I showed her my nightgown, I still laugh just thinking about it. You see at that time my grandmother was still buying my nightgowns (you know where this is going) and I pulled out a flannel, flowery, lacey (not in the sexy way) garment, SHE DIED LAUGHING! She felt so bad for me that she gave me some leftover gift certificates from her bridal shower to make a trip to the nearest lingerie store. But she said something that I will often tell my clients, “throw him a bone every once in a while ladies!!” I understand that we are tired, I get it, I am a mother of three, with a fulltime job, and I just finished my master’s…so I get it! But it’s worth the extra effort for your marriage.
Now men, you are definitely not off the hook here. You know those holey underwear you still hold on to since you were in undergrad? Please let them go! Get some nice fresh boxer shorts, maybe her favorite color! After a shower throw on some nice cologne or shower with body wash. We like to be thrown a bone as well. Oh, and let me not leave this out. Remember how I mentioned the
basic grooming habits, yes that includes but is not limited to, showering on a
daily basis, brushing your teeth, using expensive deodorant, keeping your hair
and face nicely trimmed. It’s the
little things that can make a HUGE impact on the sizzle in your
relationship.