Today I will be discussing the three major reasons couples seem to head for the D word instead of making the relationship work.
Number Three: Finances! It comes down to it’s all about the Benjamin’s!!! The fairy tales tell you that we marry for love, but most people know that in actuality that is somewhat true. Many people marry for security, and once that security has left the building, so have they. Let me assure you here that money comes and goes, and if you are building the foundation of your marriage on money, it will fail. My husband and I were married young and during a declining economy. Many times he would get a job, and since he was the last one hired, during economic pressures within the company he would be the first one fired. This
has happened three times during our marriage. He has a wonderful job now, but we had some tough times during those three layoffs. The only reason it has lasted is because our foundation was not built on money.
Number Two: Communication Malfunction… Mayday Mayday the marriage ship is sinking…This was a close call for number one, and could arguably be the cause behind the effect. The breakdown of communication is a sure sign that the marriage is heading in the wrong direction. The top reason for people coming to me for help is this very reason. Clients will say, “He just doesn’t understand me anymore” or “I just don’t get her” or “We never talk”. This is a huge mistake. How can anyone come to a compromise if you aren’t communicating? Marriage is ALL about compromising and balancing, and without communication you are missing the main ingredient to making this happen.
Number One: Everyone knows what is coming……INFIDELITY! Yep, that’s the one. Cheating is on every top reason for divorce list” nationwide, because it is a huge epidemic. Infidelity according to formal terms is the violation of mutually agreed rules or boundaries that a couple assume in a relationship. Sleeping with another man or woman is a violation of mutually agreed on boundaries. This is where those marital vows come in to play. Some people even said on that blissful day, “I pledge you my love and faithfulness!”
Today I shared some top reasons for divorce, and if you are dealing with any form of abuse (psychological, physical, or emotional), are having issues in child-rearing, sexual issues, or have a hard time with compromising on expectations & priorities (which all are other reasons that lead to divorce), please seek help. You can send me an email at [email protected] or go to my life coach page and book an appointment to get an idea of the different packages and programs I have, or seek the help of a pastor or marriage counselor. If your spouse is not open to counseling, please still seek help! Marriage is a beautiful gift, let’s cherish it!!!
Until next time ASPIRE HIGHER!!!!!!!!